what a pleasant surprise !

my favourite flowers – eustomas

scenario #1

he asked me this at HSBC.

“the wife in labour and doc ask husband to choose wife or baby? which one will you choose?”

i choose baby. he choose wife. PS – there no right/wrong.

girl – i think its a woman tinky, woman rather save the baby. true, it will be the end of the woman, which is me but its a baby, or rather our baby that he is saving. beside, i wont be able to live with myself knowing the baby is gone. lastly, i might be gone but i’m leaving behind a little gift for him to take care… so yeap, baby. guy – your ans?

guy: Before i start, i must declare that this is a bo liao question by me and please avoid using too much brain cells on this… Analyse…

Option 1, choose wife: Wife will be very upset, very difficult to accept that she lost her baby, and somehow blames his husband. Husband-wife relationship not good.

Option 2: The husband will miss his wife so badly that sometimes he blames the child for the death of his wife… and thus not to close with kid.

If u ask around, there is abt the same number of option 1 and 2 answers… Interesting… In fact there is no right or wrong in choosing which… there’s no perfect answer here.

So i come up with Option 3: Ask doctor to kill both wife and baby! So husband will become single again and find new wife! Haha! Juz kidding! Girl will be chasing me with a cane…girl – for your own safely, don’t spill our secrets online ! haha

Conclusion: Stop thinking! Ur brain cells are dying! Heehee!

This math’s test can predict your favourite idol.

Try it without lookin at the answer !

Pick 1 favourite number from 1 to 9 then use that number, x3 and then +3 then x3 again.

You will get a 2-digit number. Add the 2 numbers & find your favourite IDOL.

1. Taufiq Batisah
2. David Cook
3. Akon
4. Britney Spears
5. David Archuleta
6. Neyo
7. Chris Brown
8. Rihanna
9. girl (or you prefer my guy?)
10. Adam Lambert

So, why do you admire me? coz I’m lame?! J

i know. i’m not the gentlest girl around..

and.. i ‘slam’ his car boot yesterday accidentally.

“Bang !!”

we look at each other in shocked. Yes, i tot my boot lid drop on the floor liao. So loud!

no i’m not in the bad mood, didn’t expect it ! i was only using minimize strength.

ouch from his car. I didn’t know u r so strong, i promise to be a good boy from now on…. 🙁

i’m so sorry guy. at least it earned a heartfelt laughter from me ! giggle I’m not angry at all. Becoz its u?? Would i be if its someone else??

i learnt to be gentle coz he threaten to take revenge on mr frog, put his head on the edge of the boot & slam the boot.. just joking ! still, I’m worried abt stitch’s life…

remind me to dote on him & his car.

PS – i’m really sorry guy. luckily he not those who treat his-car-as-second-wife-or-something-kinda-man, otherwise.. RIP mr frog. Haha !

Guy: Look out for a car with a frog hangin behind the boot… Its me… Hehe

weird hobby for a girl.

robots. i love them ! i have 2 Gundam & im hooked on Bionicle.

say hi to my Bionicle friends:

baby (the green monster) and mr armless (the red monster in his vehicles)

** more photos coming your way.

lessons learnt:

mr armless comes in 3 manual. i did manual 1 by myself. guy came over today & help me with manual 2 & 3. overjoyed & excited to see a completed mr armless.

guy look at mr armless & realise couple of mistakes.. maunal 1 mistakes.. decided to correct my mistakes which involved tearing apart part of the vehicle. tears, upsetting to see my effort being taken apart. i was sulky for awhile & i really tot of stop fixing robots altogether, lost of confidence. he did a quick dismantle to make it less painful for me. quick hug & we re-build it together. he know that i was still feeling a little sulky, took me to mcd for ice-cream.

i felt tat it a relection of our chara. i realise the mistakes but i can live with the imperfection. the flaws in mr armless make him unique to me but guy felt tat its small mistakes, lets correct it TOGETHER. he dont need mr armless to be 100% perfect but if it within our control, he will choose to correct the mistakes. it was sad, seeing my effort being taken apart but it wasnt that bad rebuilding mr armless with guy. and the mini ice-cream field trip was a reward, he wanted to make sure i am okie.. 🙂

same issue on imperfection, if its a wall fan. i will have ask guy to re-do it. haha ! i’m bias. i know !

moral is – everyone is different. what are you willing to accept? a little lesson on comprising as well, i could have inisist guy to leave my robot alone but i didnt, coz we are re-building it together. glad that i wasnt stubborn ! and yes, of coz i WONT stop this hobby. i love robots.

nitey nite.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gail_Porter – abt her

www.amazon.com/Laid-Bare-Story-Love-Survival/dp/009192040X – her book

admire her for not being defeated by life.

some of us going through life questioning ‘why me?’

shit happens. (pardon my language)

go ahead – whine, cry, bitch, angry, upset.. whatever.

it okie to feel upset, in fact give yourself time to get over it but the impt thing is to pick yourself up & come out with a solution. what are you gotta do abt it and what have you learnt from it? its comforting to know tat you will only be faced with lessons that you are capable to deal with & learn from.

self – discovery are big words to me.

‘sometimes negative memories can clutter your mind & take up the space needed in order to imagine & create life based on what u want’

like i said – move on.

PS – sorry! no photos but u can read abt our mini-adventure.

mission : to watch sunrise.

met guy @ 11pm.

:: Pasir Ris Park – outdoor cooking

guy had this idea for some time, cooking at park ! but i didnt noe we are doing it today.

stuff he prepared – half cooked macaroni added with salt & oil (he know tat i like macaroni) chopsticks, soup spoons, matches, torchlight, mat, ice-coffee, instant coffee, instant milo, crackers, wet tissue, instant noodles.

i was deeply impressed. yeap, i met my match at being thoughtful.

stuff I prepared for the long night – (just) cookies / mineral water.

for company: we had sandflies & mosquito

mood: waves, no wind, distant ships, dark/warm night, stars, planes flying past, man on bicycle blastin his radio, distant laughter from others.

funny, seeing him hanging all the plastic bags to his backpack & walking beside me. I couldn’t stop laughing. Guy, really, u gotta see urself ! J

lesson he learnt from other couple.. we saw this couple, both went into the toilet together. i told guy ‘i’m glad tat u waited for me outside when i’m in there. you should! He confessed, he wont wait for me if he wasn’t carrying all the stuff. Haha ! moral of the story – guys please wait outside for your gf when you are in the park. shopping mall is fine.

:: Dim Sum @ Lau Pa Sha

Yum. Hungry ppl.

mood: hungry. greedy.

:: Sunrise @ Marina South Pier

ahh. passing storm, heavy rain, strong wind, thunder & lighting = scary / terrifying.

rain stop, sunrise took over.

mood: orange – blue – white – grey sky, gentle waves, cooling weather, birds chirping, ships coming/ going, planes flying pass, ppl tokin, ever-changing clouds.

i decided tat I like sunrise.

for company: we had crows

lesson he (and i) learnt : he know abt this but I guess everyone forgot (once in awhile) yeap myself included. he was complaining abt the sun hidden behind the dark clouds, the scenery could have be better. remind him tat it is already beautiful – the rain might not stop, too cloudy…. its not perfect but we need to be content with what we have. 😉

:: Breakfast, Swenson @ Jurong Point

yummy food, love the hasbrown, pancakes.

mood: approaching brain-dead tired.

:: home @ 10am

thank you guy for driving us around, for doing stupid things with me, for cooking (simple & nice macaroni soup) for comfort during the thunderstorm (i’m terrified ) for opening car door, for seeing me home.

am i happy? yes. i am.very happy. tired but happy.

like everyone else, I love youtube.

sg.video.yahoo.com/watch/600913/2898772 – ultra lame but funny.

sg.video.yahoo.com/watch/376187/2280918 – cool

sg.video.yahoo.com/watch/204984/1673670 – neat.

sg.video.yahoo.com/watch/904564/3600516 – soo cute !

www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uwOL4rB-go – funny. i kill you.

sg.video.yahoo.com/watch/236286/1792091 – stupid

vimeo.com/1962929 – my kor did this.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=lW_9SYaWAQg – brilliant. & this is how my “minying” is created… by kor.

entertaining?!

dinner @ jap restaurant.

ah-ha. familiar face. told guy tat i noe the guy at the counter, my sec sch frd.

being a guy, he will walk over to say hi-how-u-doing-married-kids-dog-catch-up (whatever. I hv no idea! ) networking, you never know when u need your friends kind of theory.

being a girl – cant be bother! my theory being – I don’t need them for the past 5 yrs, I don’t see myself needing them for the next 10 yrs. i’m not gotta say hi, exchange facebook (sorry I don’t even have one) or pretend that I care & ask for 20% discount.

cold, cool, collected or cruel ? a combination of all.

the funny thing is, this familiar face (i forgot his name) actually hi to my jie previously but not me when I was standing in front of him. familiar face & me just ignore each other. (when guy settle the bill)

came out of the restaurant & whine to guy. don’t you think that it werid? he say hi to my jie but there I am, standing in front of him & he ignore me?!

guy: because of me meh ! maybe he secretly like you, got ur photo in his wallet but I was around.

girl: ya right ! i wanna go ladies. where?

guy: here, quick come out. he (familiar face) might come out to beat me.

haha

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: ‘We’re in love’; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: ‘You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone’; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as ‘someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ‘;. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to ‘improve’ them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it: ‘You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse’ If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on
your finger, you don’t want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

Another perspective…There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at
least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention…Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones don’t appreciate you? Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you…the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. An African proverb states, ‘Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye’; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn’t really that important. Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and ‘a life’; you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

nitey nite