opps ! he did it again.

he: I got something for u, pass it to you later.

Me: What ?

He: Give it to u later, u wont be able to guess.

Of coz, being me.. ‘toothbrush? penknife? pen? staple? scissors? 1500-wheel? chair? soft toy?’

10-15 masks. Swine flu.

This is indeed unusual !

Sorry I burst out laughing. So silly !

yes yes, I took d train daily, yes yes, out of stock, yes yes he is sweet / concern / totful but still silly ! I like being in his tot often but masks ?! haha

thank you guy ! tell me what next on ur list of werid gifts to me? 😉

First, i would like to apologise to girl, coz this posting is gonna be something out of the usual thing she posted. I think i’m gonna make this blog into Stomp…. keke, relax girl, juz joking….

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BEIJING (Reuters Life!) – A county government in central China has rescinded an order which was intended to make officials smoke more to help the local economy, local authorities said on Tuesday.

Functionaries in Gongan county in rural Hubei province had been ordered to smoke at least 23,000 packs of cigarettes a year, worth nearly 4 million yuan ($586,700), to cushion government finances, according to regional media reports.

Those who failed to meet smoking targets or were caught smoking brands from other provinces would have been fined, the reports added, citing a government document issued earlier this year.

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Guy: So one day, a policeman will walk up to girl and ask “how many cigarettes u smoke today?”, and girl say “3 sir…”. And the policeman say “3 only!? Too little! I’m gonna fine u $50. Smoke 2 packs a day from now on!”. And girl reply “Yes sir, yes sir”. And then everytime i meet girl, she will always have a cigrette in her mouth. Yeah! How funny this is if our govt also do the same… Haha! Wat a joke!

two mths of singlehood.

i’m amazed. aren’t you amazed by human ability to adapt & adopt?

used to doing things by myself, used to being there for myself, used to being happy by myself, used to protect myself, used to being strong..

he (guy) entered the picture.

getting use to sharing my burden with him, getting use to opening up, getting used to rely on him, getting used to being love & pamper.

It time takes.

we back.. on the same issue.

she: can i go home by myself?
he: no!
she: why?
he: no!
she: why?! i’m 27 yrs old !
silence
he: its a guy thing.
she: okie you win.

girl – seriously. it really okie for me to go back by myself. yeap, i noe my area isnt that safe but im really okie…yeap, most woman wouldnt whine abt their bf sending them home but.. it happens when ur bf stay in the east ! beside my mrt is just a stone throw away. i know he see it as a responsibility but i see it as a burden somehow. it okie not being mr prefect bf once awhile, i’m not perfect !

he pop by & saw this entry..he always told me this ‘the man to love the wife & the woman to respect the man’ – respect the man ! yak yak yak

seeing guy’s post on man’s talk, got me thinking..it 1016am on a sunday & here i am, thinking abt r/s ! ( groan.. i must be ‘too free’ )

but what he say is true – lotsa things goes ‘downhill’ once the novelty wears off.

there are many examples.. couple lost in their own tots on the train, couple not talkin to each other over dinner, husband-wife sleeping further away from each other…

hello. i’m not saying we are the perfect couple or rather i am the perfect gf. what i’m trying to say is, everyone can be a perfect partners, with all the right ingredients. we all know what we are suppose to do but how many of us are doing it? when the last time u give ur wife a thank-you hug?

yeap, i know. i can only write so much, tok so much. am i capable of doing what I preach? this is for guy to find out. 🙂

I’ve met up with some old friends and we chatted over dessert at a cafe late nite.

My friend asked me, “So u and ur gf always go where?”

I answered, “Hmmm… interesting places lor, like HSBC treetop walk, science centre, marina barrage… yar we enjoy these kind of outings.”

He said, “Yar yar, last time me and my wife too, go zoo, so sweet. My wife even prepare sandwiches and stuff. Explore cooking receipes like season & fry mushroom… We even waited half an hour for bus to go tanjong rhu to enjoy the scenery…”

Sweet rite?

Then he goes, “Aiya, starting everyone like that one lar. Now dun have lor. Sometimes ask her to go downstairs and walk walk, she said she lazy…”

All of us laugh, i think laugh at ourselves bah… Haha.

Anyway, this sets me to think – wat has changed?

Deteriorating love? Passion? Change in priority? Getting used to each other’s company? Change of interest? Nothing more to explore in each other?

My thoughts: All factors are likely contributory, except deteriorating love. Love is even stronger than before (i knew them).

How abt u? Sets u thinking as well…

girl – let me jump in with my tots okie? beginning is always sweet & nice but the key is to maintain. r u still willing to bring me to HSBC after 2 yrs? 5 yrs? priority might be shifted to kids (or dogs,  tv, cars…)  i felt there is always things to explore, room for growth as individual/ as couple.. the big question lies is willingness / committment/ effort / love / time / appreciation … maybe 10 yrs down the road, u prefer to hang out with a young sweet thing rather den a old naggy wife ! 😉 wait til i’m 32, i will ask u to bring me to hsbc, i will wake up at 4.30am, i will prepare food aid for you, but are you willing to bring me there?!

Guy: This gonna be quite long. I think as we move on in life, we tend to focus on something else. Previously my focus was on my new car, as mentioned, i wanted to modify here and there, satisfy my itchy kaching… Now my focus is on girl, pamper her, dote her. Haven’t wash the car for 2 weeks, modification ideas all shelved. I think human focus is quite narrow, once u ‘into’ something, all else becomes secondary. Once u attained ur goals, u move on to another goal. Once u get married, u move on to focus on career, finances, baby, car, houses and etc, like wat girl said. But shifting focus is not equal to deteriorating love. Love can be strong or even stronger, but special moments are lesser. Maybe its because ur partner has integrated into ur life.

There’s once a pastor said “Love is commitment”. (btw its a non-religious statement)

Commitment is a pledge / promise / obligation / bounded emotionally.  Enjoying being love by a person, u need not give commitment. To really love a person, u will give commitment to her/him. But is commitment equals to consistent outings to zoo and tanjong rhu?? Or is there another way of showing commitment??

I always enjoy listening to pple’s life experiences and stories, it sets me thinking abt things that might happen in my life. Seeing the problem and look at wat when wrong, or seeing the happiness and look at wat went right. Its better to learn it this way than learning it in the hard way by experiencing it ourself.

There’s so much in life for us to explore, not only in others, but ourselves too. That’s wat makes life so interesting. But wat i can say is that: i will bring girl to HSBC treetop walk again for sure. Sunrise? As long as u r willing to wake up at 4:30am, i’ll be there. (sweet! cya in 5 yrs) We’re the ‘evil’ twins.

I think all these somehow links to Girl’s 6  partner analysing questions. Maybe we’ll post it here in future. Thank u for reading this highest word count posting ever!

girl – ah.. this is why i choose him..or rather why i accept him. no conclusion entry, u r free to agree or disagree. it open-eneded.

Guy: Add-on a few tots. I watched a chinese tv program juz now and they discuss about life before and after marriage. A wife commented that before marriage, there’s a lot of passion in the r/s, everyday is like ‘in-love’. After marriage there isn’t much passion left, the focus is all on the baby. But its not love had deteriorated, but she felt that they have moved to the next stage of life, her husband and herself see each other as a family. Lover to Family = Greater Love? Think about it….

yeap ! i mentioned. i’m going back to school.

the big date is on 14^th September.

2 years degree. SCM. PSB.

guy offered to help me with assignments.. but.. most prob i will beg him to bring me out !

he agrees “library!”

duh.

let me kiss – good bye to freedom / good bye to tv / good bye to slp / good bye to fixing robots / good bye to reading / good bye to my life.

keke

one of my favorite tv program: the human spirit.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Family_That_Walks_On_All_Fours

yeap, i agree “hope this film might bring help & a little understanding” to the family.

belief.

He met her on a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised, but due to being polite, she promised.

They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, she thought, please, let me go home…. suddenly he asked the waiter. ‘would you please give me some salt? I’d like to put it in my coffee.’ Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red, but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously; why you have this hobby? He replied: ‘when I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I like playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there’. While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched.. That’s his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home. Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.

That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story.

They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee!

Then the story was just like every beautiful love story , the princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life… And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that’s the way he liked it.

After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said: ‘My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life lie. This was the only lie I said to you—the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead.I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything.. Now I’m dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth: I don’t like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste.. But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you.. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life,even though I have to drink the salty coffee again’.

Her tears made the letter totally wet.Someday, someone asked her: what’s the taste of salty coffee? It’s sweet. She replied.

“A difficult situation can be handled in two ways: We can either do something to change it, or face it. If we can  do something, then why worry and get upset over it – just change it. If there is nothing we can do, again, why worry and get upset over it? Things will not get better with anger and worry” ~Shantideva~

“Worry is like a rocking chair, it rocks but it gets you nowhere.” ~Guy~