‘the key to success is to fight smart, pick the right strategy and employ it at the right time’

again.

the key to success is to fight smart (remain calm) pick the right strategy (blog abt it !) and employ it at the right time (wait until i’m cool down)

i waited for days, for the right mood, for the right attitude to write this entry.
i refuse to go on a anger-filled binge on my happy blog.

but let me state this – its not gotta be a ‘nicey’ blog.

so, here: i need to write abt what happened to me to better explain myself.

so, whatsup?! 

‘indecent proposal’
someone (a friend) suggested whether its possible to start a companion relationship with me.  meaning? smt like guy & my friendship. ie call this friend if i’m upset, cry on his shoulder if needed. the answer: hell, NO! duh. what a stupid suggestion.. coming from a married man!

which leads to the following tots:
“to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.”

marriage. does it matter to you?

when you recite the marriage vows, what goes through your mind.
no, BEFORE you even ask a woman to marry you, what went through your mind.

have you, like seriously, sit down, read through the vows and decide, ‘are you ready for that sorta commitment towards another human, whose happiness simply lies in your hand’

interesting.
lets examine the flip side.

the flip side:
we’re all taught to chase after ‘things’ you desire.
(status, freedom, monetary, happiness..)

but what’s happen if that ‘thing’ turn out to be a human.
but you are married (..which translate to a commitment..)

what do you do den?
stick to your marriage? be responsible. think abt your wife’s feeling before you say such words to another woman.
screw it. be selfish. take a chance in life. pray that you get what you want?

the right side:
i’m not in the position to pass judgment.
but the world had rules.
those rules keep us safe, keep our heart intact.

you are married.
stay married.
‘fooling around’ is not gotta contribute to a great marriage.

r/s is abt coming together, solving issues as a couple etc etc but when you step into a marriage, the stakes just got higher.

the human side:
stop. think.
just for a second.
if you had the ability to do what you pleased.
what’s gotta happen to us?

as human.
we gotta lost that basic human principles.

and i asked.
why?
why do you exist den?
the world donest need someone like you.

the practical tots:
as nice as i am.
i had this tot “‘if you had the courage or intention to cheat on your wife, have the courage to tell her in the face BEFORE you cheat’ and i say – the world is yours den”

the good ending:
what a negative and strong entry. but there isnt any happy ending. this kind of man pissed me off. grow a brain or smt. and yes, for the record, i hv ‘de-friend’ him.

oh well, at least its a story for me to blog abt and a story to tell my frds. haha !

groove.

goodness, i’m having sucha hard time writing the next entry.

its a challenge coz it goes against my nature.

i having lotsa doubts on posting it but i know, i will.

it will NOT be a oh-this-is-so-groove entry.

wait for it.

G.

catch this:
acoustic.
wed.
lunch time segment – 12pm.

G.

je ne fer @ GZ says:
“scold” you in the sense wow.. you surprised me

haha !
she claimed that i am unpredictable.

am i?
well, okie, yeap i am. smts.
thats why i am fun & interesting, no? haha !

live and learn. G.

once awhile, fairy godmother had some evil tots:
here’s one!

get this dude,

its impossible to have a partner who is nice, fun, loyal, committed, sensitive, responsible, share great chemistry, smart, witty, on top of that, good looking.

go get a barbie or a ken (if you are a lady!)

*evil laughter

opps.. whatever happen to fairy godmother today !

*run before i turn you into a pumpkin or cockroach! haha

G.

*sigh

i own a happy blog. 😉

so, i shld take a moment and talk abt – me.

i cant pinpoint the exact reasons why i am happy / contented with my life. i always tot that having a partner will be the happiest thing that happens to me (yes i still felt that way!) yet there a part of me knows that i am doing fine on my own.

‘contentment should comes from within, not from another person or object’

i think, only when you are feeling happy for  yourself, within yourself, when your love tank is full den you are ready to give love to others.

everyday, everything, everyone i encounter – it have be a learning experiences for me. some good (recently i learn that i am prideful. not a word i will pick for myself but yeap, i be told. *smile) some bad. (cockroach! i’m gotta blog abt it)

okie, i had my moment.
back to fun, interesting, stupid, grammar, spelling filled blog, coz thats me – imperfection BUT happy.

i just took this pix. was standing at the window, listenin to music and being happy.

thank you for reading.

groove.

wait for me !where are we going?looks familiar.taa-dah ! send me a msg via morse code. cool ! kor explain to the girls (jie and me) you only got a min to assemble and a min to disassemble. good luck boys. heheon the walls.
this, is my fav. its abt supply chain. close to my heart. cute little displaynice hor?even the lift looks awesome.lobbycan we go for a jog?army museum of singapore our flags.i loved this. my current msn display pix. you know, i cant resist taking a shot of the lovely blue sky.can i bring this home? its goes well with my robots.happily climb onto this.den we saw this sign. opps ! ignorance are bliss !

gotta shout abt the army 4D show !
(always wanted to catch a 4D show @ sentosa. jen, you gotta the hint? :))
the experience – strong wind, water droplet, the visual, blow-my-mind !

here the webby:
www.mindef.gov.sg/imindef/mindef_websites/atozlistings/army/microsites/armymuseum/index.html
G.

i did this for fun ! ready, get set, go !i cleared this w/o any problem. hehe, with kor’s help! he practically ‘lift’ me off the ground and onto the wall. crossed-overchix-feet. i could only ‘admire’ this. it too tough lah. swing-swing. jie and i ‘climb’ over from the middle ! 🙂 i did this by myself. *proud last obstacle i ‘passed’ the course with plenty of cheats and skips !

the mini – soc is found at army museum of spore.

G.

duh! how come i seems to commit a ‘crime’ every now and den.
are you ready, to read my confession?
*deep breath

i’m sure, u noticed how much the little book affected me and my outlook on life.

anyway, sometimes, things happened and instead of bitching / thinking abt it.
i learn to ask myself the WHY / WHAT.
why izzit happening to me and most imptly, what am i suppose to learn from it?

me and my kapo-ness landed me in the next lesson.
pls, remind me to mind my own business. haha !

oh, let me state this – the person of interest have given me the permission to write the below entry. in fact, he vet through before posting.

i written and rewritten this, read and reread it. its nt perfect, and neither am i.
but i’ve been brave.

here boo’s story.
boo? he don’t like this term but technically he is a ‘stranger’

to cut the story short – his soon-to-be-gf betray him.

hello, the soon to be gf is NOT me lah.
i’m just the kapo passerby whose kapo-y and curiosity got myself involved by asking ‘what happen eh?’

after hearing his story, kapo me took a step further and decided boo needs my ‘help’ which is of coz my listening ear, my helping hand.
i was determined to help boo walked out of the heartbreak.

in other words, i just decided to help a total ‘stranger’

brave notion. no?
all these tots just happened – dive in, with a mission under my belt, and started doin my cpr.

i didn’t even stop for a second to wonder why am i doing all this?

the point:
toking to boo. i learn things abt myself.

– strong-willed *pause.

i.am.firm.
the problem: i crossed the line, expecting boo to do exactly what i say.

i forgot.

all he wanted from me is an listening ear, not advises.
just like i always say, everyone of us, we know what we are suppose to do. but the heart never listens to the head izzit?

i went as far as demanding for his stand:
if its to get over her, i will help, if its to get back her, i wont help.

boo asked me ‘why do you (me!) need an objective?’

objective.
it hits me front, right, centre. what sorta person i am. thinking i know best, been there, done that sorta attitude. do exactly what i say, you’ll be fine. here the formula, accept it.

i’m wrong.

it doesn’t work this way.
i wasn’t objective enough to hear him. which leads me to conclude, i’m not the best person to tok to him.

i simply forgot my role as a friend.

hey,  i might be the brightest bulb in the chandelier, but i make up in kindness ! haha

– forgiveness
i have the ability to forgive others who betray me, but to ask me to take back the person. its simply out of qn. fat hopes, nada,

– patience
everytime boo fails, i try to catch and assured him.

– celebrate the small win
instead of expecting boo to walk out of it immediately, i learn to acknowledge baby steps that he took.

example:
boo text me – having doubts abt himself, seems like he haven’t be living for himself.

though abt it and i replied ‘maybe you’re one of those whose happiness lies in giving, providing for others, making sure pple around you are happy and in turn make you happy’

boo decided to take on voluntary work.

– lacked of patience
i just don’t have it. period.

– remain positive
it easy being +ve by myself, it tough convince others to remain upbeat.

the million dollar qn: why? (am i doing all this)

maybe i asked the wrong question at the wrong time. haha !
maybe i shld learn to shut up. haha !

maybe, i seen something in boo.
maybe, the kindness of a stranger.
maybe, its for me. to learn. abt myself.

the end:
how’s boo?

haha ! this is the next million dollar qn.

honestly i dunno.
i guess, he needs plenty of time to get over the hurt.
pls! with me, fairy godmother around. boo should be fine. at least i hope so ! 🙂

credits:
boo thanks me for trying to be there.

boo thanks me for writing his story.

he said that toking to me helps.
no. i point out to boo, i did nothing. boo did all the hard work, bringin himself around.

i thank him for given me the right to write his story, i thank him for the lessons he taught me.

boo wants me to write his autography.
we are still negotiating rates and copyright. haha !

thank you for reading and for sharing my lessons.

fairy godmother groove. 🙂