‘the key to success is to fight smart, pick the right strategy and employ it at the right time’

again.

the key to success is to fight smart (remain calm) pick the right strategy (blog abt it !) and employ it at the right time (wait until i’m cool down)

i waited for days, for the right mood, for the right attitude to write this entry.
i refuse to go on a anger-filled binge on my happy blog.

but let me state this – its not gotta be a ‘nicey’ blog.

so, here: i need to write abt what happened to me to better explain myself.

so, whatsup?! 

‘indecent proposal’
someone (a friend) suggested whether its possible to start a companion relationship with me.  meaning? smt like guy & my friendship. ie call this friend if i’m upset, cry on his shoulder if needed. the answer: hell, NO! duh. what a stupid suggestion.. coming from a married man!

which leads to the following tots:
“to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.”

marriage. does it matter to you?

when you recite the marriage vows, what goes through your mind.
no, BEFORE you even ask a woman to marry you, what went through your mind.

have you, like seriously, sit down, read through the vows and decide, ‘are you ready for that sorta commitment towards another human, whose happiness simply lies in your hand’

interesting.
lets examine the flip side.

the flip side:
we’re all taught to chase after ‘things’ you desire.
(status, freedom, monetary, happiness..)

but what’s happen if that ‘thing’ turn out to be a human.
but you are married (..which translate to a commitment..)

what do you do den?
stick to your marriage? be responsible. think abt your wife’s feeling before you say such words to another woman.
screw it. be selfish. take a chance in life. pray that you get what you want?

the right side:
i’m not in the position to pass judgment.
but the world had rules.
those rules keep us safe, keep our heart intact.

you are married.
stay married.
‘fooling around’ is not gotta contribute to a great marriage.

r/s is abt coming together, solving issues as a couple etc etc but when you step into a marriage, the stakes just got higher.

the human side:
stop. think.
just for a second.
if you had the ability to do what you pleased.
what’s gotta happen to us?

as human.
we gotta lost that basic human principles.

and i asked.
why?
why do you exist den?
the world donest need someone like you.

the practical tots:
as nice as i am.
i had this tot “‘if you had the courage or intention to cheat on your wife, have the courage to tell her in the face BEFORE you cheat’ and i say – the world is yours den”

the good ending:
what a negative and strong entry. but there isnt any happy ending. this kind of man pissed me off. grow a brain or smt. and yes, for the record, i hv ‘de-friend’ him.

oh well, at least its a story for me to blog abt and a story to tell my frds. haha !

groove.