another staycation for his July birthday !
in the lift
lunch
lunch at keong saik snack ! cant believe he ordered a $20 pancake !
new majestic hotel
double sink
bathtub / glass shower area / king size bed/ view
free drinks 
mini balcony
segway ! 
the staff told us to do candid shot and we just laugh ! haha
free popcorn !
wings of time
back to hotel for supper ! 😉
– G
somewhere in july.
unhappiness at work.. he rent a car,took me to places, hope to cheer me up.
Park @ AMK
Park @ Woodlands
very nice, long this bridge
Park @ Sembawang
so nice !
dinner at the park .. chinese food for me
western food for him 
after dinner, he took me to changi to see planes ! totally love it, so many planes !!! 🙂
– G
Its been 23 days since the surgery, 1 week of mc left.
Minimum pain.. i can walk but not run.
Still avoiding seafood and tofu, cut down on chicken.
Honestly, I am getting a little bored staying at home but like I always say better stay at home den going to work. hahaa ! Not sure what am I going to do with my work.. go back and take 1 day at a time until its time to go.
Anyway, i am having my period now.. no difference. Its 4 days late as per my normal menstruation cycle but its early coz dr ang say its suppose to come 4 – 6 weeks after surgery.
Trying not to think of the changes that is happening to me. the hot flush, saying goodbye to my period for 6 months.
1 step at a time..
……….
Someday, I will stay true to myself and make my thoughts come true- work in a non-profit organisation.
– G
This shall be a happy entry!
It might be only 2 weeks after the surgery but I am not going to miss Jen’s wedding held at Amara Sentosa.
Finally work on the maid of honor speech 2 days before her wedding. The chief editor did his magic only on Friday night and I practised a few rounds.
20 Sept, reported at 11am. Shared cab with 1 of her jie-mei. Kinda strange to step out of the house on my own.. glad to have a jie-mei with me.
Program
11am – 1130am: preparation for games
1145am – 1245pm: games
1pm-2.30pm: pick up the beautiful bride, photo shoot at the glass house, check in to the suite.
3pm-5pm: jen’s make up
5pm-5.30pm: tea ceremony
6pm-7pm: solemnization, photo shoot
7pm-7.30pm: jen change into night gown
7.30pm-8pm: dinner
8pm-8.30pm: video, thank you speech, maid of honor speech
9.15pm: home sweet home
I got assigned to light-weighted duties – phone calls and assist the bride
Thank you BFF for assigning me simple task.
I was surprise when Jeff came and thanks me for being there. i guess both of them know I wasn’t feeling like sunshine. I felt better when vin came at 4pm. Reassured to see him.
Jen was so surprised by my speech. Sarah was the one who approached and asked whether I am interested to give a speech at Jen’s wedding. Sarah shared with me the sequence and invited me to the stage. i walked past Jen, gave he ra huge smile, a small tap on her chair and up to the stage. Aww, glad that she love my speech.
Jen’s wedding speech
Hello everyone! I am Ying, maid of honour and Jen’s best friend.
Let me share with you guys a little about Jen & I. We go way back, 13 years back. We are poly classmates!
The first thing I remember of her from 13 years ago was that she has a lot of shoes. It always makes her laugh when I remind her of that.
Jen, do you remember when we really became best friends? Do you need a little hint? Do you think it was the 9 years of clubbing, 3 times a week? Or was it the time we had our first heart to heart talk? Somehow she has this ability to make me open up to her with her uh-huh look.
To this day, we still have our weekly dinner aka gossip sessions. We’re able to talk about everything and anything. And that’s one of the things that I love about her.
Thinking about it, it kinda amazes me that we are BFF. In some ways, we are as different as night and day. She’s a chatterbox, I am not. She’s a girly-girl who likes shoes, bags and shopping but I am a 5 minutes-shopper. But when we are together, everything gels perfectly.
We get each other, she understands and she supports me in whatever I do. She’s someone who’s always in your corner, always there when you need her. And this, ladies and gentleman is what makes me love Jen.
[PAUSE]
Jeff, lucky you to marry my beautiful Jen. From the weekly meetings I have with your wife, I realize you are the perfect man for her. You are smart, caring, funny and always thinking of ways to love and keep my little friend safe & happy. Thank you, Jeff.
[PAUSE]
To love, laughter and happily ever after…
Congratulations again Mr and Mrs Chong !
I saw both Jen & Jeff tears, received applause for my little speech to jen and also people asking ‘3 times a week !!?”
Photos
*jie-mei bouquet. beautiful & so jen
*powers combine
*4 sisters and 1 guy
*love her hair !
*BFFs
🙂
*the bride’s heels
*love her laugh
*behind the scene
*with make up !
*gifts for the helpers ! its a luggage tag
*the crowd
*2 pairs of twins + the bride
her cousins really look like her !
*behind marching in
*restaurant deco
*love this ! different age
*with my twin !
– G
April 25 2012, I blogged about the top 8 places I would like to go. Here’s the list: japan, dubai aquarium, sq flight, fullerton hotel or swissotel, 1 night stay at sentosa, Switzerland railway, royal carribean, northern light.
Updated:
Japn,Okinawa: check
Dubai aquarium – we went to the aquarium at Okinawa: check
Swissotel hotel: check
Sentosa stay – movenpick (twice) and the sentosa hotel (once):check
SQ flight: dec, so check !
5 out of 8 items, not bad
okie, that’s why I need a new list of ‘Places I Would Like to Go’
Switzerland railway, royal carribean, northern light – still in the running !
Cebu
Read so much about it and it seems awesome! The beach, the food, the friendly people
Not to mention I saw this on fb: www.skyexperienceadventure.com/page/tower-zip
Australia
For the koala bear, skydive and bridge climb
Indonesian
Raja Ampat – try google for images and the answer is there
Semarang – umbol sidomukti marine bridge, ride a horse and ayam penyet (I’ll kill to have a piece of chicken now.. stupid diet restriction)
Surabya – mount bromo
– G
Woke up this morning with tears in my eyes..
Follow up yesterday. It worries me to see what’s under the dressing. I want to remove the dressing but I also got used to it. it also my first time out of the house in 1 week, everything seems different outside, brighter, noisier, endless space.
We waited for Dr Ang for about 1 hour, she’s in an emergency c-section. She asked how I am and shared with me the report of my surgery. Its confirmed the 2 cysts are endometriosis and I have a p-something. (I forgot the name and cant find my medical report..) the report also show something about my womb. If I am an older woman, the doc would suggest removing the entire womb as it would lead to cancer.
Dr Ang wants me to go through with the entire treatment for endometriosis. Brochure: Decapeptyl CR is effective in inhibiting endometrial tissue growth. This eventually results in the decrease in size of endometrial tissues.
She removed my dressing and the stitches. She made kervin stand beside me and hold my hands. The injection to tummy was painful. Dr Ang describes the injection as a burning sensation.
We will try for baby next year. I asked Dr Ang what about removing my womb and she say we will cross the bridge when it happens, usually happens at 40. Meanwhile, let’s try to start a family.
The injection is $500 each, total of 3 injections.
Money is not an issue, my insurance cover it. My surgery cost is covered by insurance as well.
We made a pact to tea break at Delifrance. The tears just came. Why is it so freaking easy for others but not me? Whoever up there felt that I am not ready to be a mum..more time to do whatever I want, clear my always wanted list. But why do I have to go through so much more than the average mum? why didn’t we try for baby once we got married? I don’t regret the past 3 years with kervin. Fights aside, he’s been a fantastic husband.
I asked him yesterday.. would he leave me? I am going to bring a lot of problems and heartache. He promises to stand by me. I asked him too, is it fair to have a child? What if something happen to me? What is he and the child gotta do? What will happen to my vin vin?
The pain from the needle is nothing compare to the heartache.
life is what you make of it. I am going to be upset for a couple of days, but I don’t believe in sulking for too long. I just been through a surgery, I should cheer up and stay positive.
– G
It’s such a sad experience, pack my bag for 1 night hospital stay..
Sentosa: so nice that vin fulfilled my little wish. Beach, cycling was a bonus. He promised to take me to the beach when I am feeling better.
I’m on the kiasu side, had salad for dinner on thur, non-solid food on fri to help with laxatives. 1 pack of laxatives mixed with 1L of water was a tough challenge! Started drinking the water at 3.30pm and finished at 8.45pm, the diarrhea only started next morning at 5.30am !!
We reached Gleneagles at 11.50am, admission and waited for the porter to bring us to my room. How strange to have a porter !!
I didn’t know what to do with myself while waiting for the surgery, hang out with my family. Felt so strange sitting on the hospital bed..
The nurses came to get me at 3pm. I got on the bed and was push to the waiting area. Mum & jie came in to jia you me… left vin & i. Both of us hold back our tears.. Dr Pang came to have a little chat with me.
3.50pm, wave goodbye to vin and the nurses push me into the operating theatre. The sudden thought that I should quit my job and work in a non-profit organisation.
At the operating theatre, Dr Pang started the drip and the nurses attached some wires on me.
45 mins wait, Dr Ang was late. I looked at the big clock in the room, listened to the nurses chattering and singing, fell aslp, think abt life, should I cancel the surgery (stupid thought), look around the room, thinking that vin must be worried..
Dr Ang arrived. She shared with the nurses the procedure. Dr Pang came and he say gotta give me something to made me calm and relax.
Bang ! that’s it.
The next thing I remember was I saw a nurse and kervin. I was being push to a room. I looked at the clock and got a shock ! its already 8.30pm ! what happened ??!
Drift in and out of sleep. remember callie sat on the sofa eating bread, my sis asked kervin whether he want any bread or soup, I asked vin what’s the complication? How come the surgery took so long? (3.5 hour instead of 2 hours) I grabbed his hand and told him ‘vin, don’t go’
Kervin was the last to leave hospital that night about 12am, he’s not allow to stay as it’s a 2 bedded room, single rooms are not available. It wasn’t that bad staying at the hospital by myself. only woke up when the nurses came in to measure my blood pressure and temp. She came in with a bed pan and asked me to urine, otherwise have to seek alternate way for me to pee. Yeap ! managed to do so, the pain wasn’t as bad.
Luckily, I told vin to leave my phone beside me. I remember checking the time on my mobile and counting down to 7.30am, to see kervin again.
The nurse asked whether I want to be wipe and I say yes. She came in again hand me toothbrush. I brush my teeth in bed. She gave me a good wipe and I went to sleep again.
I was shocked to discovered there’s a container of excess fluid attached to my body !!
kervin came at 7.30am and there’s an alarm coming from my neighbour’s bed. The alarm was going crazy and I got kervin to look for a nurse. My neighbour’s drip was running low.. I thought something happen to her !
Dr Ang came in the morning and shared with me about the cysts, my condition was more extreme den she thought, my 2 ovaries are struck together (How is this possible?!) , my intestines are affected as well. She instructed the nurse to make me walk to the bathroom; she can only discharge me if I am able to walk. I can choose to stay for another night or to go home at 5pm.
Removed my drip, went to the bathroom. Wow, single room bathroom come with crabtree and evelyn stuff.
I choose to stay for another night. Single room are available and I swap room. Ahhhhh, so quiet in the single room. Happy that kervin can stay for the night. My family (plus jen) and his family came to visit.
Dr Ang called and scolds me for not walking. Vin help and I managed to walk to the bathroom !
Vin has to pay $85 for staying, meals are complimentary ! mil cooked fish & pork ball soup, watched masterchef, chit chat and it’s time for bed. I couldn’t sleep much.. woke up at 3.30am, watched re-run, vin woke up at 6am. We ate bread. Went to sleep again at 6.30am ! haha
Had breakfast, mee sotong with fish for me, western breakfast for him. Dr Ang came again to check on me. The nurse changed my dressing, signed the release form, the bill was send to the room from 1 staff. Shock of my life: 22k
22k – 5k medisave = 17k
Thank you to insurance company !
The porter came with a wheelchair, I couldn’t stop smiling ! I AM GOING HOME !! 🙂
The longest 20 metres walk from the carpark to home, took about 20mins. Could only do half a step with vin vin help. Love that man.
The first couple of days were a struggle, tears a few times. Try not to think of my condition and the surgery. Positive and happy thoughts. Swelling for a couple of days, couldnt sleep, pace around the room until 4am, worried about the swell..
Its been a week.. going for my doc appt shortly. I forgotten about the injection until vin told me. i must have gave him the ke lian look coz he started telling me I don’t have to do it during this medical appointment. Give me some time to adjust.
Looking back.. the worse moments:
– finding out about the 3 cysts
– Go to work, pretend to be normal.
– discover that I am the one who couldn’t conceive because of endometriosis (hopefully I can conceive after the surgery and injection)
– finding out I have 3 cysts and 1 fibroid
– The fight with vin
– tube of excess fluid
– the first bed pan after my surgery
– sleeping on my back
– 20 metres walk to home
– Pacing around the room coz of swelling
– G
3 weeks of roller-coaster, I was either trying to live life as normal, be strong, be happy or I was sulking and lotsa little crying session by myself.
Everybody say its just a common surgery but its normal to be scare and worried right?
Went for a 2nd opinion and was diagnosed with endometriosis. I have most /all the symptoms but no red flag. Heavy menstruation, I thought it’s normal. Cramp, I thought its normal too. Tired, which working adults has enough sleep.. anyway, the surgery is fixed on 6 September.
Cancel HK trip with Jen. I really wanted to go, she’s disappointed, so am i. But health is more important, beside my family won’t allow me to go.. I am so glad that her fiancé managed to substitute me.
I really needed a break, to sit at the beach and do nothing but i can’t. The responsible little me know that I am going to be on 1 month hospitalisation leave, so I shouldn’t take any more leave. But the other side of me is dying from pretending to be normal.
This is just a common surgery yet I wasn’t allow to do what I wanted to do.. why is it so hard? What if someday, i caught something more serious than cysts and there isn’t any chance to do the simple things that I want?
Vin & I went for a pre-plan trip to Avani resort in Malaysia. Sitting at the balcony looking at the sea. The microlight flight was awesome. I learnt a couple of things when I was flying, 1) dreams do come true (2) be brave and go for the surgery ! There are more adventures ahead of me
I was also thinking about being a mum. why is it so easy for others to become a mum but my journey is so difficult? Maybe whoever up there knows that I am not 100% ready to be a mum and this is one of the tests. Being a mum scare me.. how to be a good parent? How to be responsible? The sacrifices, the time etc etc
Had a huge fight with vin 2 days before the surgery. Our biggest fight.. his work and me. We are okie now. Seeking the balance is not easy.
One of the happiest moments was Sentosa and cycling. A trip to the beach !! vin promised to bring me back to the beach when I recover *tears*
Will blog again about 6 September !
– G